BECAUSE A FOOL HAS AN OPINION….18 becomes a Magic Number

Let me begin by answering a very silly question. The same lame question people ask and when you answer them they ask again and again like some badly programmed robot. “can you give your daughter out in marriage at 14?” The simple answer is yes. But watch out, after reading this piece they will ask again. They ask and keep asking because the campaign against a woman less than 18 getting married has just two pillars: angry exclamations and pointless questions. We will not be like them, we will mention and refute each and every one of their objection to a man of any age marrying a woman of any age provided there is parental consent

Some have likened marrying a 14 years old girl to “ruining her life” and this is related to sex often. This is the view point of people who are sexually reckless hence their mind have become perverted so much so that they can only think of a man and a young lady living as man and wife from the angle of sex. When he was informed that marriage does not mean immediate sex one of such commentators said “how can you give a bone to a dog and expect him not to eat it?”. So you see this pervert likens his being around a 14 years old girl to a dog being around a bone and surprisingly he thinks someone else is the pervert

Pedophilia is not to have sex with your wife who is under 18 within marriage, pedophilia is to have sexual desire for prepubescent children. If i marry a paralyzed woman does it follow that i have sexual desire for paralyzed women? If i marry an old lady does it follow that i have sexual desire for old women? Why is it said that whoever marries someone you defined a child has sexual desire for children? This thinking can only come from people who not only think marriage is equal to sex but also see women as of no other value than sex and one can hardly blame them afteral the movies they watch, songs they sing, women they see and even clothes they wear resolve around sex and they think everyone is like them

Some like Femi Fani Kayode have even describe the whole nation as a nation of perverts and we say to this elder with the temperament of a juvenile; by your own definition of perversion and pedophilia, you are calling your great grand fathers perverts and by implication you are calling yourself a product of pedophilia. You are not stopping there you are also calling Joseph who was betrothed to Mary the mother of Jesus far before 12 years a pedophile and you are pointing accusing fingers at your God for putting one of His honorable messengers, Jesus, in the tummy of a 12 years old according to your records and we say to you; an elder should only speak of what he has thought of, please leave this reactionary outburst to children; the poorly brought up ones to be specific

The problem i have with overnight moralist is their hypocrisy. If the news was that the Senate removed a clause that says fornication is a crime these Child Not Bride people will not breathe a word. If the news was that Senate removed a clause that girls of 14 years can no longer be used as house helps these Child not Bride hypocrites will not breathe a word. They tell us that a girl of 14 cannot handle a home yet alot of them have one at home washing their clothes, cleaning the toilet and sweeping their floors without respect and honour that a man should give his wife. They tell us a girl of 14 does not know anything yet Juliet of the Romeo and Juliet fame which they propagate as epitome of love was not even up to 14 neither was the Rose character who is depicted to have sex with Jack. So to these crazed morons it is ok for a child to be depicted with romance and sex but she should not marry; they choose child pornography over marriage and one of their messages asked yet another chilly question: “how can a child who is not allowed to watch pornography be allowed to get married?”. What a question, what a people!

Where were these fraudsters when movies were being aired teaching their children how to kiss and have sex? Where were these criminals when Mrs. Ngozi Iwuoha cried her eyes out narrating how Apostle Princewill Basil lied to her 15 years old daughter that there was a “dirty foundation that defined her life” and that he has the anointing power to cast the evil spirit away from her so he violated the little girl and when she was pregnant he took her somewhere and aborted the baby. What about the chairman of bishops in Rivers State, Bishop Chibuike Nwabueze who admitted to have had sex with a 14 years old girl and paid for her abortion? Why was there no Child Not Sex Toy campaign and no VVF talk? The Bishop even claimed the little girl seduced him and i am sure this same Bishop if he was not nabbed would have been among the loud mouths speaking against a decision not to prohibit marriage for a 17 years old whose parent and religion consent

In the last few weeks there was no fewer than 5 little children defiled in Benin City from police report alone and you can be sure the police will not report 95% of the cases. Vanguard Newspaper has tagged it a Season of Rape. Pastor Eze Fidelis of the Deeper Life Bible Church was discovered to be having sex with two girls one 9 and the other 11 and the two of the use to come together to his house for that purpose for over a year now meaning he started when one was 8 and the other 10, Segun Oteru did what he did with Grace a 12 years old, and Saturday Cole did same with another little girl of 11 all in one week and nobody breathe a word, and it was not done by force, and what we hear is “i was tempted” from the same mouth that would have been cursing Yerima for marrying a girl who is now 17 years old schooling happily in Egypt while he is in Nigeria. Some say Yerima paid 500,000 dollars for dowry and at the same time they said his wife will have VVF, this is like fasting and eating at the same time but the country has enough fools who will buy any and every talk

Putting all these occurrences into perspective, we are not saying if you did not speak up against prostitution then you must be mute on fornication, that is wrong because both are evil. What we are saying is if you will not criticize an evil do not criticize a good just because you suspect it may lead to evil in some cases. Will there be men who will maltreat their wife when she is 90? YES, will there be men who will maltreat their wife when they are 14? YES, will there be men who will maltreat their wife when they are 25? YES…there is nothing in the age 17 that induces maltreatment. Fathers need to be careful who they allow their daughters of any age to marry, they may even be more careful when the daughter is younger, no problem, but don’t tell us the whole idea is wrong and should be prohibited for everybody because, i don’t know of your Christian community, but our Muslim community have men who will not maltreat their wives of any age even though we have a few who would. I don’t know of your Christian community but our Muslim community have men who marry for other reasons apart from sex and we urge you to respect that afteral we are not coming for your daughter, even if we do you can reject, and our daughters who we marry out at 14 are not complaining now that they are 35, matter of fact they are happy they will have children of 20 who may even be Professors by the time they are 45 still young and beautiful thirty years into marriage

You have always ask if we can give out our daughters at that age and we have always answered that we can because we know the stuff a true Muslim is made of; even if his wife was blind, deaf and dumb he won’t maltreat her because his beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) has already said the best among you is the one who is best to his wife. If you judge us looking at El Rufai and Atiku Abubakar who you have corrupted with your system you may not see clearly. I suggest you bother yourself with your problem so that we see a Boy Not Bride campaign that will safe the little boys being sodomized everyday in the name of a strange thou shall not marry religious belief afterall they say charity begins at home

Finally, let me say that you can make any law you want to make none will be before our Qur’an and the Sunnah of our Prophet because we consider it foolishness to place what man legislates on top what God Almighty reveals, so if you intend to seize the House of Assembly and write a new constitution that says marriage should be put at 45 please knock yourself out, the law will be for you and you alone; we marry at any age and to partners of any age and nothing will stop it, you can waste time and money it won’t change because this is how we have kept our decency which, even though you hate to admit, you are witnesses to. We do hope you come out of your hypocrisy some day and accept life as real as it is , maybe then you’ll realise when God and God’s people speak the opinion of fools don’t matter

Eseoghene Al-Faruq Ohwojeheri

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23 thoughts on “BECAUSE A FOOL HAS AN OPINION….18 becomes a Magic Number

  1. Nice piece Faruq. I’ll like you to post this on Great if you can send a tweet to the following: @radiomazino,@sopemartins, @smooth981fm.

  2. Nice piece Faruq. I’ll like you to post this on Great if you can send a tweet to the following: @radiomazino,@sopemartins, @smooth981fm.

  3. Succinctly put, words carefully arranged, message very clear and unambiguous. Maa Shaa Allaah,Some Religions are for leisures. They have no format. They wait for the West to set Standards for them. Hayak Allaah Al Faruq Ohwojeheri!

  4. jazakallahu khairan brother,let who ever feels otherwise do otherwise.No rule can over ruled our own rules which is the Qur,an nd sunnah,we neither need trophy nor praise from any1 talk more of being called S0CIALS……

  5. How to use “Tawakkul” in Relieving our Anxieties and Worries
    April 3rd, 2011 by

    Tawakkul refers to putting your trust in Allah – to believe that He alone can ward off the harms of this world, provide you blessings and sustenance, and to ease your challenges. Tawakkul is also about accepting the results that He decides regardless of how they may turn out to be.

    To understand the concept of Tawakkul, consider how tense and worried you get at times about the challenges of this worldly life. Whether it’s you worrying about losing your job or sustenance, or general life problems that you may come to face, Tawakkul is your belief and the attitude that you have about putting your trust in Allah to take care of all your affairs.

    Allah (swt ), says:

    …And whoever places his trust in Allah, Sufficient is He for him, for Allah will surely accomplish His Purpose: For verily, Allah has appointed for all things a due proportion. (Qur’an 65:3)
    The Quran makes it clear that Tawakkul is not an option but rather a requirement. Allah (may He be Exalted) says:

    “…and put your trust in Allâh if you are believers indeed. (Surah Al-Ma’idah, 5: 23)
    He also says in the Quran:

    “….And in Allah let believers put their Trust” [Surah Ibrahim 14:11]

    Don’t give up on Your Efforts
    Tawakkul shouldn’t be mistaken with giving up your efforts thinking that somehow your challenges will get resolved. Rather striving and working with the attitude that Allah will take care of your affairs and will help you in getting through your trials is part of you having the Tawakkul on Allah.

    Some scholars have stated that “Tawakkul in reality does not deny actually working and striving for provision, for Allah Almighty has decreed that we should work and it is from His ways that he gives people when they strive. In fact, Allah Almighty ordered us to both depend upon Him and to work, to take the necessary steps needed to achieve our goals, and so the act of striving for our sustenance is an act of physical worship while trusting and depending upon Allah is faith in Him.” (Permanent Committee for Research and Verdicts (Fatawa Islamiyah, Vol. 7, Pages 172-174)

    Allah says:

    “…So seek provision from Allah and worship Him (alone).” [Al-‘Ankaboot 29: 17]
    Shaikh Saalih Al-Fawzaan stated about this verse, “Look for sustenance and do not sit around in the masaajid claiming that you are putting your trust in Allah. Do not sit in your homes and claim that your daily sustenance will come to you.” This is wrong and a true believer doesn’t say such things.” (Shaikh Saalih Al-Fawzaan Haqeeqat-ut-Tawakkul (pg. 15-25))

    This obviously applies to not just seeking provisions but in striving to resolve other matters of our lives – just as long we remember and believe that His will is a prerequisite for our matters to get resolved and to accept what He ultimately decrees.

    The scholars have also stated that, “other than our efforts that we put in, a Muslim should also combine Tawakkul with other means, whether they are acts of `Ibadah (worship) like Du`a’ (supplication), Salah (Prayer), Sadaqah (voluntary charity) or maintaining the ties of kinship, or other material means which Allah has predestined.” (source : Fatwa no. 2798)

    Allah (swt ), also says in the Quran:

    [There were] those to whom people said: “The people are gathering against you, so fear them.“ But it only increased their faith; they said: “For us Allah is Sufficient and He is the best Disposer of affairs” (Qur’an 3:173)

    Benefits of Tawakkul

    One of the major benefits of Tawakkul is that it can relieve us from unnecessary anxiety, worry, and resulting depression from the challenges that we may be facing. By believing that all our affairs are in Allah’s hands and we can do only what is in our control, we leave the results to Allah and accept His decree whatever it may be. Ibn Rajab Al-Hanbali said, “the fruit of tawakkul is the acceptance of Allah’s decree. Whoever leaves his affairs to Allah and then is accepting of what he is given has truly relied on Allah. Al-Hassan and others among the salaf defined tawakkul as ridhaa (acceptance).” (Jami’ Al-’Uloom wa Al-Hikam : A Commentary on 50 Major Hadith)

    Let’s strive to understand the concept of Tawakkul and to make it part of our belief systems. We will notice that things will not only get resolved easier with His help, but Tawakkul will also relieve us from the day to day anxieties and worries associated with the challenges of this life.


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  7. I hope they understand the difference between faith and politics. You don’t put your mouth in a religious matter when you are suppose to be political analyst. Message to Elder Fani Kayode.

  8. I appreciate your religious passion and anger against developing trend of islamophobia because unfortunately the issue as been turned into a religious debate with many making emotional and uninformed statements. As a physician who has worked in the north for few years my stand is not on religious consideration at all. Nigeria has the highest maternal mortality and morbidity rate in the world. The commonest cause of morbidity is Vesico vaginal fistula and is commoner amongst women with history of early marriage. Secondly,as i have observed, the issue is even controversial among islamic scholars and unlike the hijab/fasting it is not a compulsory rite a muslim must fulfil to practise his religion. The bible also did not stipulate any age for marriage with some historical records even pointing to mary betrothal and marriage at an early age!However, for the sake of safety, girl child education and general improvement of society child marriage has been abolished in many countries including some islamic countries(e.g Afghanistan,Turkey and Pakistan). While you may aptly point to many discriminations and harm to muslims you should also empathize with many innocent christians killed by islamic fundamentalist in the north so that you will not be fanning the mutual suspicion and distrust we now collectively suffer for. Any form of destruction, disrespect or disregard for anyone’s believe is very abhorrent to me. Christians and muslims must remember they are not the only ones in Nigeria and we must look for common grounds to face the real problems confronting us all.

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  14. What more can I say other than Jazakallahu khairan. This is a brilliant piece. I only hope to see more of people like you discuss about topical issues on TV and not a set of uneducated graduates. Barakallahu fih.


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